Loaded Baked Chicken

This recipe is Keto, however its also perfect for those who are not on keto, but enjoy that warm comfort food feeling. I typically make a side salad with it, or just do the chicken by itself.

Serving Size: 2-3 Time: 40 minutes

Ingredients:

-6 Oz Cream Cheese (for keto full fat)

-2 full chicken breasts cut in fourths, or 8 chicken tenders

-1 Cup shredded cheddar cheese

-8 Strips regular cut bacon (I prefer hickory smoke)

-1-2 Tbsp Creole Seasoning (if you dont have it on hand its essentially paprika, salt and pepper)

-2 tbsp olive oil (If you’re not keto, and don’t want the extra calories or fat, spraying the pan with cooking spray will work fine)

Directions: Preheat oven to 400 Degrees

  1. Cook bacon and set aside, crumble it when ready.
  2. Put 2 tbsp olive oil (Or cooking spray) and cover the bottom of a casserole dish. I use the glass ones.
  3. Arrange uncooked chicken breasts or tender next to each other in the pan
  4. Season with creole seasoning (Paprika, salt, pepper)
  5. Cut cream cheese into 8 pieces and place them on each tender, or section of chicken breast.
  6. Add crumbled bacon on top of cream cheese so it covers the chicken
  7. Cover on top with the cup of cheddar cheese. Make sure it’s covering the chicken. If you’re crazy for cheese sprinkle a little extra on.
  8. Bake at 400 Degrees for about 20-25 minutes depending on thickness of chicken.
  9. Enjoy. (:

The Many Men We Face

So as my previous post would allude too, I am very much single. In all honesty, my longest real relationship was about 3 months, so I couldn’t tell you the difference between romance movie relationships and real ones. However, this does mean when it comes to dating I’m an expert. In this day and age, many of us chose to venture onto social media/dating apps for significant others. I have slid into DM’s, used Tinder, Bumble, Plenty of Fish, I even went out with some stranger off of Whisper. I don’t know if y’all remember that from 4 years ago, that super anonymous app where people would dish on each other, well I got flashed by my first Asian dude in my University library from that site. Little side note, the stereotype is not always true. From all these experiences the one thing I’ve learned from all these ways of meeting guys is that on a grand scale, most guys are exactly the same. Sure there are exceptions to the rule, but as a great movie once said, you are the rule, not the exception.
All in all, men are in fact quite simple. They are not overly complex beings. On occasion, you might encounter a guy that has mastered the art of faking genuine intentions to get into bed, but generally, they’ll show you true colors within 2 dates. It’s up to us, to notice these. I realize some women have never been taught these signs, which is why I’m going to illuminate the mistakes that we tend to excuse in new men.


1.The Non-Time sensitive guy.
This is the guy that takes hours to text back, if not days. You have to ask him to clarify the times you were supposed to meet, and even when you do he’s late. These guys love excuses, like “oh I got pulled over 15 more minutes”, and 15 minutes go by and they’re still not there. If he wasn’t a block away when he got pulled over like he should’ve been because it was 7:55 pm and you were meeting at 8 pm, he was already planning on being late. First/Second dates are like a probationary period of a new job, you can’t show up late and expect to get any benefits. This guy can also manifest by canceling at the last minute because things “came up”. This guy does not value your time, energy or schedule, so don’t allow him to waste it. If he was half as interested in you as he says he is, he would be there on time at the very least.

2. The Over Achiever.
This is the guy that from the minute you swipe right, or open his message or give him your number he’s calling you baby or boo. He’s over describing his plans for your life in the next 5 years. This guy will tell you how you’re “literally my perfect girl” just so he can slack off later. You’ll get excited and invite him for drinks or coffee thinking “hey this dude thinks I’m the tits, this should be fun” and instead he’s more interested with the 10 pm “wyd” texts. As women, we are the queens of emotional masturbation. We from the beginning evaluate potential dates for marriage, whether or not our babies would look cute, we examine every single one of their flaws and compare them to our imaginary wish list for future husbands. This considered when did we ever say to a man, “omg you’re like the perfect husband, I’m so in love” to a guy the first day or two we meet them. NEVER. Yet we’re the emotional ones? So be very wary of the over the top guys, they’re likely thinking they can sweet talk you into bed. The minute they realize you’re worthy/needing more effort, they ghost you. They all of sudden disappear, even though you were the “perfect girl for them”.

3. The Slacker.
Lastly, we have the slacker. These are the guys that make you do all the work and give you nothing major in return. These are the serial Netflix and chillers, the “come have a drink at the crib” guys. These are the ones that say “Oh you’re so far away” when you tell them you live 25 minutes away. They ask you to meet them in their area every time, never reciprocating. These are the guys that when you’ve been chilling for a while, and ask them if they want to go out and do something or in public, they may oblige you once. However, they tend to consistently cancel and make excuses or say they’re too busy when the opportunity arises. AVOID these guys at all costs. I’ve seen some of the coolest, most sought after guy friends that can literally get any girl they want, yet they do everything to impress the one girl they actually want. When a guy wants you, and I mean really wants you, he’s going to put all the effort in. Don’t take this as a personal offense or as “I’m not good enough” because you are. This man and you, are simply not the right fit. Pour a glass of wine or cranberry bubbly and keep it moving.
This all was very negative I know. This guy, and that, Kiara I feel like that’s all the guys I meet, can’t I just make one of them change? Yeah sure, maybe if you so happen to be the exception to the rule, the 1 out of 10,000 but you’re usually not. Wait around until the guy that is willing to pick you up from 25 minutes away to take you out, wait for the guy that brings you flowers sometimes out of nowhere, because he’s truly interested. The guy that plans cute little dates without you having to make all the suggestions. Sure he may set ya’ll up with tacos when you’re really a burrito girl but the man put effort and thought into letting you not have to do all the work. They exist, I promise, I’ve dated a couple, but the timing was never just right, or eventually, it came down to a basic disagreement on fundamentals like wanting marriage or politics, but they’re out there. Invest in the ones that invest in you. You wouldn’t keep buying the same pair of shoes that break every 10th time you wear them outside, or the rain jacket that always leaves you soaked on the inner lining. You wouldn’t keep buying the same stock when the prices and company keep decreasing in value. Don’t limit yourself, or limit your value to men who have limited interest in you.

The Best Scrambled Eggs

For those of whom are like me and are unimpressed by flavorless scrambled eggs created by the masses, but love the protein they provide, try out this recipe.

This is a recipe for those looking for a more flavorful egg. Keep in mind I also like my scrambles fully cooked, not runny or wet so if you don’t cook at your own speed.

Ingredients: 2 Servings                                Time: 5 minutes

-4 Large eggs (I prefer brown but white are basically the same)

-1 Handful Spinach

– 1-2 Tbsp extra virgin olive oil

-1/2 cup chopped red/green peppers

-1 Tsp oregano

-1 Tsp garlic

-2 Tsp paprika

If you like it a bit spicy:

Add ½-1 tsp red cayenne pepper & a pinch of cumin

Directions:

In a large frying pan heat 1-2 tbsp of olive oil over (slightly below) medium heat. Once hot, drop bell peppers in the pan and sear for 1 minute.  Add in eggs, and spices, scramble with spatula. Cook for around 1-2 minutes until eggs become formed, then rip up spinach and drop into the pan, scramble for additional 1 minute or until spinach starts to turn dark green and wilt, and eggs are starting to get golden/browning. DO not burn.  Remove from heat, divide up and enjoy.

This recipe is gluten free and dairy free. I don’t like adding milk to my scrambles because it makes eggs too runny and is unnecessary for full flavor.

The Exit Survey

One of the most consistent issues I’ve had while dating is, guys telling me I’m “wifey material”, or swearing I’m what they envision when they picture who they want to be with, yet I’m single. So considering this, and after a long rant to my girl-friend Megan, I decided to do an exit survey on some of the guys I’ve dated.I was ranting about how I wish guys would tell you what it was that made them not interested in long term, so I could readjust any quirks I had. Or, if it wasn’t me, and it really was my taste in guys just tends to be bad boys that don’t commit. While pondering these things, I came up with an idea that was crazy, but so crazy it just might be fruitful. My girl assured me I was insane, but I went ahead with it anyway. So here I was freshly cancelled on by another guy, yet again, and so I sent out 7 Dm’s/Text messages. I chose guys I’d either been on a first date with, but never had a second, or someone I dated casually (and had casual sex with), but was never interested in more when I brought it up. The text read:

” Hey just out of curiosity, what was it about me you didn’t like/ weren’t crazy about that made you not want to date me seriously? Just taking a poll”.

Mannnnnnn. Yo girl actually got responses. Firstly, I was just shocked they actually gave me some honest feedback. I sent the text mostly to recent flings, but also 2 old flings from back in high school. I’ll break the feedback into two categories, the recent flings and the old flings (To account for my maturity, life changes and general increase in bad bitch-ness).

The Old Flings: basically said I was too young for them to take seriously. Not surprised. I’ve always liked dating older men, so at the time it would’ve been a bit weird for my 19 year old fling introducing his 15 year old girlfriend. One actually said I was arrogant, which was very surprising as I’ve struggled with body image/confidence my entire life.

The New Flings: This is where I got more variability, so I’m going to go guy by guy. (due to more guys).

I.A.: “I thought and still think you’re awesome and crazy pretty. For the longest time i thought you didn’t have any dating attraction toward me. I thought you just wanted to sleep together and not get tied up.” Keep in mind i had known this guy for years and we almost had a thing way back, but had recently hung out, and were watching movies and one thing lead to another but then we never spoke after and a few weeks later he was dating someone new. Confusing much?

B.B.: “You were perfect. It was me, why you wanna know so bad?” Then he proceeded to like my pics and wants to come hang, and date. For context, we had a lil FWB (friends with benefits) thing for a couple years here and there between dating other people but whenever i brought up that i liked him, and we should go out in public he was like “Yeah I’m just so busy”

T.J.: For context, we went out to coffee, and then he said he wanted to see me again and go out and we planned on going out the next weekend but he stopped texting back slowly and then cancelled ” I shoulda gave you a heads up that’s my fault. But the age difference (8 years), I go out a lot and I’m a flirt. I just feel like you’re moving at a slower pace than I am. Idk. There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s me. you’re a wonderful person. I just feel like things would clash”. I feel like he was probably the most honest, he seemed like a party boy when I met him but he was 6’8 and had a laugh to die for, so ya girl was overlooking that.

The last guy I texted told me I should drop the question cause it seemed dumb so I left him out. But i low-key know why he never did. He likes to be single cause he likes his options open when he’s traveling to NOLA, Miami, etc and partying on his free time. He is what I like to call a serial-fuckboy. Knows how to say all the right things, and will take you out, but you’ll never get more than 15 min cuddle time to keep you interested.

Moral of this long post is, don’t get too hung up on why guys aren’t interested or don’t take it further. Unlike your girlfriends tell you, it’s usually you. You’re not everyones cup of tea, and if you’re like me and don’t deal with BS and make your intentions clear, most dudes will fall out when they realize casual isn’t going to be enough. Communicate your interests always to avoid confusion, and hold out on sex for a little while if you want something serious, it’ll make him want it more, and you’ll weed out the ones that can’t wait 3 dates without getting laid.

Let me know your experiences and ask any questions!

-Kiara Lynn

Get to know me

I feel, as any first date, or meeting a new friend, we should get to know each other. I’m going to give ya’ll the rundown on myself. I’m born and raised in Oregon, in a smaller city near Salem. My parents were fantastic, still married to this day but they have the strangest story on how they wound up together. I am a mother to an amazingly bright and gorgeous 4 year old girl named Lola. I am a photographer, a dating blogger and a self-proclaimed personal stylist guru. I have been doing photography ever since I could hold a camera, but started getting more serious about it during college. I love the candid moments in life, and love to shoot love and life and especially love Boudoir shoots as I feel EVERYONE deserves to feel sexy and show that off. I would love to be a part of your journey, memories and life from behind the camera.